How to Positively handle a Break-Up
No wonder you feel all frustrated, broken, sad and all hopeless after that break up. But there are always two sides to be considered. One is that you had to leave that person you loved for a period of time and you thought that you will never be able to live without that person and that you will lose many things that make you happy. Other side is that besides this anger and this frustration and feeling like “this is the end of the world”, you can use this time to realize a few things you need to understand after that terrible part of life called breakup.
YOU REALIZE YOUR STRENGTH:
While with somebody you start depending on them so much that you forget your own strengths and the extent to which you can do things single handed. So breakup actually makes you realize what your super powers can be that were being suppressed by the presence of a wrong person with you.
REALIZING YOUR MONEY MATTER SHOULD BE PERSONAL:
You learn it only after breakup that you should not share your money matters in any case or form with anybody until you are damn sure that this relationship is going to last forever and ever.
REALIZING YOUR OWN SELF: YOU EXIST:
While taking care of your so-called-baby you really become a parent and forget yourself totally. You just lose whole concentration over your own self and start looking after him/her. You even forget your own likes and dislikes and hobbies and chill outs. So now that you are free from babysitting try chilling out your own way.
DON’T BE THE COMPROMISING ONE ALWAYS:
You have to take a break from this whole series of compromising each and everything for that one person. It’s seriously not your duty to sacrifice and compromise every time something goes wrong.
YOU GET TO KNOW YOUR TRUE FRIENDS:
When you are passing through breakup phase you get to know who your true friends are and who is that person who will stand by you whatever may come.
BEING SINGLE: SUCH A RELIEF:
When you realize after breakup that you are single now then a wave of relief moves down your soul. Being single is bliss as you get whole of the time and space to yourself only. And you can make a fine use of that time. You realize and now also pay some heed to being single after that horrible relationship.
YOU CAN’T CHANGE THEM:
People would change for you if they want to, only. And doing anything and saying anything won’t get you anywhere. So you should not push them so hard to change for you or do things you want them to do. So relax and let it go as holding on will only hurt you and it may appear to you that the other person is not even giving a damn about this breakup.
THIS WAS NOT WHAT YOU DESERVED:
Well if you put all your energies and all your abilities into something and the other person is so blind not to see all that and not to pay any heed to that then you should specify and fix this one thing in your mind that YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS. And this is also true at some points we humans realize that when we lose something it opens a door for something better.
NOW YOU CAN STOP BEING SOMEONE ELSE:
After such a long period of pretending to be somebody you are not you must be tired. You must be tired of trying to become someone you never were for the sake of happiness of that person who never knew your value. So now is the time that you can just sit back and relax and be your own normal jolly self that you used to be. And believe me you would be very happy with yourself.
If you get on with your life after breakup and realize these small things you can get back to your life and may be even in a better way. You may even become a better person than before. So just take responsibility and after a little bit of this moaning and groaning start over.